This issue about abortion really worries me because I’ve kept this as a secret from my husband. I was in a relationship with a guy for 5 years before I met my current husband.
My ex boyfriend was my first guy but he cheated on me so many times. I will catch him, he’ll apologize and I’ll forgive him because I loved him so much. There was even a time he used akpeteshie to swear that he’ll never cheat on me again but he still cheated on me. When it became too much for me, my mother warned me to leave him or she’ll disown me so I ended things with him.
Dating different men was never my intention in life and I made up my mind that the second guy will be my last stop. Lo and behold, I met my husband. We started dating but one thing he said was he wanted to marry a virgin because he’s a virgin. I loved him because he took very good care of me. I didn’t want to leave him for another guy who will come and mess me up. A friend helped me with some fake medicine which I used after we got married. He saw the fake blood and I’m naturally very tight there so he didn’t know the difference.
Now auntie Abena, to my problem. My ex boyfriend made me abort several times. He always said he’s not ready and we aborted 5 times. The 5th time I almost died because I didn’t know I was pregnant and was still menstruating. He forced me to go for the abortion which caused me so much pain. I never told my husband because he thinks I was a virgin before we married.
Never did it cross my mind that I won’t be able to give birth because of the 5 times I got pregnant but it’s been almost 4 years and I’ve never even miscarried once. I exercise very well, take good food and been to different fertility clinics. They all said I have no issue with childbirth neither does my husband but here lies the case that I can’t get pregnant.
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I don’t know how to tell him because he’s now planning to fly us to India to see a man there who can help. I’m hoping this man can help but what if I still don’t get pregnant? I’m so scared I’ll lose him. Should I tell him now or should I wait? For how long should I wait? Please help a confused sister na mabr3. Thank you