Dear Auntie Abena,
Hello Auntie Abena, I’m a big fan of your page and thank you for all that you’ve been doing.The advice and all that….
Now to my main problem. There is this lady I’m dating and we have plans of marrying soon but something happened recently that I just don’t know if I wanna be with her again.
The thing is, she cheated on me and decided to tell me after some months. Actually, she wouldn’t have told me if I hadn’t asked her about it. I don’t know but I kinda had a dream/revelation about that and decided to ask her about it and she finally admitted it.
I gave a perfect description of the guy I dreamt about and what happened. She confirmed everything to be true. Auntie, she wanted to go and it was a whole lot of drama but I told her to stay and that I forgive her. But, for sometime now, those memories keep flashing before my eyes and it’s like I do things to hurt her.
Its just like I don’t value her anymore sometimes. She has become very normal to me, I always had this kinda respect for her but now I can just say anything to her. Is this normal? She said that the guy forced himself on her. Does that really happen that a lady can’t stop anything like that from happening?
The she said it happened the first time but she managed to elope and that the second time she couldn’t. My last question is , am I forcing myself to love her? I don’t know but maybe because she has been very supportive and helpful too so I’m just confused about the whole thing what should I do?
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