I’m Scared He’ll Use the Cheating Against Me


Thank you for the good work you’re doing. I’m 23 years of age and he’s 24. We’ve been together for 2 years. When I first met him, he was the type that wasn’t serious with anything and wasn’t making effort to do anything. I changed him with my advises and sometimes gave him pocket money.

I made him to start hustling so he could take care of the both of us but can you imagine Auntie Abena, at the end of the month if he gets paid there will always be one story or the other? That he doesn’t have money and will even ask me for financial assistance. I never minded because I loved him so much.

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Fast forward early last year, things got really hard for me. Guy 2 who’s in his early 30’s had been asking me out for a year. He proposed and I accepted so we started dating. I’d told him I was in a relationship but he didn’t mind. He did everything for me and even wanted to marry me.

This my boyfriend of two years found out I was cheating on him. I confessed everything to him and promised to break up with Guy 2 which I did.

He later on convinced me to get pregnant for him and I foolishly accepted. The thing is I thought I couldn’t get pregnant, because since we started dating we had had had sex countless times but I had never for once missed my period, even though we were not using protection nor contraceptive.

We did this experiment and unfortunately I got pregnant. I’m 8 months gone now. He didn’t deny it though and is doing everything possible to take care of me and the baby. He’s also decided to come pay my dowry and do the necessary things after I give birth because he’s doing well now than before.

My problem here is, he keeps on reminding me about my cheating affair. I’m even scared to marry him now since he always has that in mind. I feel he will use it against me in future but I love him. What should I do?

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Written by Abena Magis

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