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I Was Raised In An Abusive Home and My Life Is a Mess Right Now.

DEAR AUNTIE ABENA,

Good morning mom ,l am a fan and thank you for the great work you are doing for us all. On the issue of abuse l will like to share my life experiences with you and everyone.

I was raised in an abusive home. My father will beat my mother right before us the children. There was one particular one that my mum lost her front teeth and passed out. We stood and wept but my mum protected him when I reported him to our Pastor. She will always say she is going through this because of us.

l am the first child of 4 children .I will always tell her to let us leave, then she will ask me to where. She will make me feel guilty for being born. She will be crying that we are the reason for her pain. I was young and felt there was something wrong with me and my siblings. One day one of her friends asked her to work so she would not always be depending only on my father to trigger beatings when she requests for things from him.

All this while my father was having a second wife who he was taking proper care of and had set her up financially but my mother was a house wife. My mum took me to a man who was ready to give her loan to start her business. I was 15 years thereabout and she will send me with food to the man in the afternoon when my dad was not around and this man will ask me to wait for him to finish eating and then take the bowl back but I did not know l was going to be abused sexually.

This man had sex with me and I bled and I ran to my mother and she encouraged me not to tell anyone about it because he is helping us by giving her money and now we can buy anything we want and my father is not going to beat her again.

So I became his girlfriend and every day I will have to go back and give him sex. Sometimes l will meet another woman coming from his room and he will tell me to go and he will call me when he is ready. It went on for about 2 years when I met this guy who was my age mate who became close to me and he showed interest in me and I told him about the situation l was in.He helped me to get out and asked me to tell my mother to send the man ‘s money or he will report her to my father.

This guy showed me respect and how a woman should be treated. He is always helping me with my homework and studies. He embolden me to say no to my mother and that I am not responsible for the issues in her life. It is her choices and I am not the one to be blamed. He was with me without sex for a year. I forced him to have sex with me. He taught me self esteem, compassion, self discipline and self love.

Even though he did not marry me, we were together for 8years and I wasn’t getting younger and he wanted a whole lot of things before marrying me. Someone who was ready came along and I married him. He is divorced 2 times and I am in an unhappy marriage. Please hide my identity.

Written by East@Edito468

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