DEAR AUNTIE ABENA,
I hope you are fine. I have been dating my guy for three years now. He is the best thing that’s ever happened to me, very caring, sweet, humble, just name it. We have had a very stable relationship for all these three years and have made plans to marry this year. All our parents are aware of our relationship and they are cool with us.
Auntie Abena, my guy and I do have sex once in a while. Recently however, I chanced on a man of God who warned me against having sex with a man I am not married to. I had closed from work and was walking home when he called me and indulged me in this conversation. He prayed for me and asked me to ‘go and sin no more’.
Auntie Abena, the man of God really touched my heart and his words really got me thinking. I decided I was going to abstain till I marry. I spoke with my guy about it and he was not happy with me. He even tried to do the do right after revealing this to him (can you imagine) which I resisted. I tried to convince him to at least try for us to get married before we get intimate again but he said no. We argued about it the day till I left.
Auntie, since then this guy hardly picks my calls plus I do all the calling now, has put up a weird attitude, always busy with work. I went to his place last week to have an open conversation and find out what was wrong. Immediately I entered, he tried to have his way again. It took a massive amount of strength before I was able to break away from him. When I stepped outside, he shouted angrily at me not to step in his house again. Auntie Abena, am I being unfair with my stance? I have apologized several times to him because I know I took him by surprise with my ‘no sex policy’ but he keeps telling me to reconsider my decision and things will return to normal. What is with guys and sex? Why should a relationship suffer for lack of sex? Please what do you and your fans think about this situation? Thank you in advance.