DEAR AUNTIE ABENA,
I am a lady in my 30’s dating a guy who’s 5 years older than me. Aaccording to our zodiac horoscope, we are a complete match. We have dated for four years.
The truth of the matter is that, when we met, everything I told him about myself, most of it was not true. He figured it out eventually, confronted me about it and I told him the truth and everything about me and the damn whole truth about me.
Also whiles dating, I wasn’t faithful to him, I mean I was seeing other guys aside him. He eventually got to know about it once again and he confronted me. I told him the truth and promised not to do it again. He’s a guy who likes to be told the truth and nothing else but finds it difficult to trust people who have broken his trust.
To cut the matter short and simple, I mean I didn’t treat him well from the start of our relationship, I cheated on him countless times, tolds him lies e.t.c. He forgave me though after all the above things I stated.
We still continued the relationship but I have become committed, loving, sacrifice and dedicated to him (washing, cooking, sex etc). I have given up all my friends especially my males friends for our relationship because whenever he sees a male contact on my phone, he assumes I have something to do with them person.
I am crazy in love with him because guys like him are hard to find. Auntie Abena, I have introduced him to as many members of my family member as possible because I’ve planned my future around him knowing that it’s me he loves after knowing all my flaws and still loved me.
NOTE: I DON’T know any of his friends let alone his family till date.
Whenever I talk about it, he would say, when he was ready to introduce me to the family I broke his trust by lying and cheating which I accept because I caused it.
Auntie Abena, last year my dad introduced me to a guy I grew up with so we can get to know ourselves and probably get married. I called my guy and told him about it. Funny enough, he told me to go on a date with the guy because he didn’t want to be selfish. Seriously I least expected that though, I was sad, worried and cried for days because of what he said.
Auntie Abena, I love this guy. I really love this guy now like crazy and want to be with him for the rest of my life but now it’s like his love for me is no longer the same. Whenever I talk about our future (marriage, kids) he doesn’t seem interested. He is either angry at me or will probably say HE CAN’T TELL IF WE WILL BE TOGETHER. He always gives me the impression that he no longer wants me as a wife.
Now my problem is that, I truly love him now than never, and would want to spend the days of my life with this guy. Just last two months, he told me he’s on a date with someone else. That he wanted to get to know this lady and see how things will go because he couldn’t trust me and we are having issues.
I HAVE DONE EVERYTHING POSSIBLE TO EARN HIS TRUST AND TRUST ME ,WE AIN’T HAVING ANY ISSUES. Please Abena, what advice can you give to me. PLEASE POST IT